In this episode Oh Shoot! podcast, Cassidy Lynne reads through your confession submissions! Confessions from a photographer.
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In this episode, Cassidy Lynne reads through your confession submissions, including topics like guilty grooms, taking gummies, guests not wanting their photo taken, & horses biting clients.
Confessions Of A Photographer
Hello everybody and welcome back to another episode of Oh Shoot! With your host Cassidy Lynne! It’s Monday and I am so happy to be here today. I hope your week’s off to an amazing start. And if you’re catching this later, hope you’re having a fantastic week wherever you are! Today’s episode is going to be SO fun because we’re diving into photography confessions! You guys absolutely love these episodes and always ask for more, so I’m delivering! My listeners and followers have sent in their juiciest photographer confessions. We’ve got confessions from every corner of the photography world, and trust me, they’re wild! I want to briefly mention to my YouTube listeners, I’m wearing the new “Let’s Go Take Photos” dual-tone cap that might or might not be part of our latest merch drop not 100% sure yet. Since you’ve been begging for a flat bill hat, I finally made it happen! If you want to support the pod, head over to my website for all the merch. Now, let’s dive into these confessions, and honestly, I’m a little scared because you guys NEVER hold back!
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Submission: Getting into wedding photography, I thought it would increase my chances of meeting a potential bachelor because I heard weddings are the number one setting to find a partner. I can confirm it’s not true 🤣 and I confess I’m a bit disappointed haha.
Cassidy: Oh I’m so sorry! So, being a wedding photographer is kinda different from being a guest when it comes to meeting someone special at weddings. I mean, yeah, that stat about finding love at weddings might be true for guests who are all dressed up and mingling. But as a photographer, you’re seeing everything, the good, the bad. And sometimes people not exactly on their best behavior, you know? Like, if you’re there in a nice dress or suit as a guest, you’re part of the celebration, but when you’re working it, it’s just different. Sure, some photographers probably found their person while shooting weddings, but I feel like your chances are way better if you’re actually there as a guest. It’s just not quite the same situation when you’re behind the camera versus being part of the party crowd.
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Submission: I’ve taken engagement photos for one girl…. 3 times… 3 different guys.
Cassidy: WAIT that is insane! Like the fact that she hasn’t gone to a different photographer, she’s like I found my photographer. I like the photographer it’s almost like you’re in a steadier relationship than she is. Like you and the girl are in a steadier relationship than this girl is with all the different guys. Like you’re her longest relationship. Truly that is insane you know what I love about girlhood? Is the fact that it’s like I will continue to take your photos. Absolutely you go through seven guys I will capture every single one of them. As long as you’re paying me at that point I’m invested I want to see who you end up with, ahaha!
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Submission: The groom was grinding on his female “groomsmen” when his bride was away putting their 6 month old baby to bed. I didn’t see this, but my husband/ second shooter did. He later told me about it and said he might have gotten some photos of it. The next day the bride asked me for all of the raws from the reception because she heard about something disturbing going on. And was trying to figure something out. She offered to send more $ for them as well but being a girls girl I sent them all to her no questions asked.
Cassidy: OMG, can we talk about the CRAZY stuff we photographers witness at weddings?! Like, we’re literally there to document EVERYTHING that happens. But sometimes we’re caught in these wild situations where we’re like “Wait… should I keep shooting?” I mean, I’ve been there. I had a guest straight up PASS OUT while the bride and groom were walking back down the aisle! The bride was freaking out, and I’m standing there thinking “Do I really need to capture this moment?” Even though technically it’s our job to document the whole day, right? And sometimes we catch things that are… let’s say… interesting? Like this photographer said, the groom’s doing something questionable while the bride’s busy with the baby. We see it ALL! And here’s the thing, is there even anything in our contracts about this stuff? Can we show these photos? Should we?
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Submission: I hate getting shot lists. They’re my 13th reason, and they are always arbitrary. I’m going to take photos of everything, its literally my job. Please don’t tell me to take photos of the “bride walking down the aisle” or “bride and groom first kiss” this is already implied???
Cassidy: Shot lists are becoming pretty outdated in photography. Like, I rarely get them from clients anymore because they usually trust that I know what shots to get. Sometimes clients think they need to provide one. But it’s actually better to tell them upfront that you don’t want or need a shot list. It might be a trust issue. Clients who give shot lists might be nervous about whether their photographer will capture everything. Especially if they’ve never worked together before. But honestly, every photographer would probably agree that shot lists are the worst, except when you make them for yourself. If you’re the type of person whose brain works better with lists, then yeah, make your own shot list! The problem comes when someone else makes it for you. That just turns the whole thing into this annoying to-do list and totally kills your creative freedom.
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Submission: A close friend of mine started the same photography business as me. We live 5 minutes away from each other. And I am SALTY about it.
Cassidy: So, like, I totally get feeling salty about your friend suddenly getting into photography when you live super close to each other. It’s natural to feel that way! But here’s the thing – photography is such a huge field, right? You both could end up specializing in totally different areas, which would actually be pretty cool. Think about it – you could actually turn this into something awesome. Like, imagine being able to refer clients to each other! That could make your friendship even stronger. I’ve actually met some of my closest friends through photography, so sometimes these things work out in unexpected ways. You definitely have every right to feel a bit weird about it right now. But maybe try to keep an open mind? Instead of letting it bug you, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt and see how things play out. Who knows?
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Submission: If one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen is rude to my second shooter, I absolutely will make sure to include at least one super unflattering photo of them in the final gallery.
Cassidy: Does anyone else do this? Personally don’t really do this. But like I actually heard that this is decently common. Where it’s like you purposefully are choosing unflattering photos of people if you know like oh like this person wasn’t nice or whatever that is so funny! I mean I can’t even, I feel like when I go to actually edit a wedding. Sometimes I don’t even remember exactly what happened during the day. I do like obviously I have pictures of everything. But I don’t remember exactly, oh this person that this person did this like sometimes like a month later when I’m actually editing my photos it’s not super clear in my head but good for you for being able to remember and honestly feels a little bit like Karma like you’re kind of just helping Karma along a little bit.
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Submission: I took a “gummy” before a session thinking it would make me relaxed and creative. Nope. I was paranoid and tripped over my own equipment. Never again 😭 pictures still came out good though.
Cassidy: You’re not the first person that’s done this. I had a write-in like a while ago of someone that did this and I found out it literally was someone that took photos of me. It was one of my friends! This is a common I’ve heard of this happening before first of all with gummies in general just like getting really nervous from them I’ve heard that that happens to people who are prone to being anxious. Honestly don’t try anything for the first time right before a shoot! I don’t know why we think that’s a good idea like, for example, I tried lemon cello for the first time before a shoot and it was a lot of alcohol! I didn’t realize and it was just bad I mean the shoot turned out good the photos still turned out good. But like if you’re into like you know experimenting maybe an energy drink before something like just maybe don’t do the whole thing or just try half. Because you never know how your body’s going to react to it. and this goes with anything like don’t try a brand new raw fish sushi roll before a session if you know that sometimes your stomach is prone to be upset by those things like come on now!
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Submission: One time before a session at a park I REALLY had to pee and there was no bathroom. So I peed by a tree and as I was walking back to my car, my client was there early and we did the whole session without them ever knowing I just peed on a tree right before lol
Cassidy: AHAH! I would never do this. I don’t know how many of you guys listening are into peeing in nature and like if you have to pee you just pee wherever. But like I cannot do that I literally can’t. And that’s actually like so insane that like you peed, and your client literally could have just like walked by that tree that you were peeing by. And like all of a sudden, you’d have like the most horrifying horror story ever! That’s just risky business I don’t know but it’s like what else do you do if you have to pee?
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Submission: I was hanging out with the bridesmaids and there was a baby screaming outside the room. And one bridesmaid said “omg who brings a baby to a wedding?” And everyone laughed and me trying to fit in was like. “Omg right? EW.” AND everyone got quiet and the bridesmaid that had mentioned the baby was like, “um yeah that’s actually my baby.” LOL. I felt so awkward for the entire evening and apologized so many times.
Cassidy: That is so embarrassing oh my gosh oh no no no no no I have secondhand embarrassment for you. But also like I feel stuff like that is tricky cuz obviously everyone laughed because the bridesmaid said oh who would bring a baby to a wedding being sarcastic and joking. But you didn’t know that, so I almost feel like that’s a little bit unfair to you. Because it’s like you’re new to this situation! Hi, I’m new here I don’t know who has a baby who doesn’t have a baby and this girl literally just said who brings a baby to a wedding so I’m going to be like right? That is crazy that’s actually crazy but also, you know what else I feel so much from this story is saying that you apologize so many times for the entire evening like that is also so me! If I do something that was taken the wrong way or like you know I thought it would be funny and then like it wasn’t funny I’m apologizing profusely for the rest of the day, lol!
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Submission: Shot a wedding, attended the wedding after shooting & ended up sleeping with a groomsman in a field afterwards (the wedding was at a summer camp). Every one knew the next morning (the bride encouraged it though, but I was still slightly mortified in the morning). He also lost his shoe during and never found it, even when looking the next day.
Cassidy: So I’m assuming you knew people at this wedding. You attended the wedding so maybe that means you just were like vibing with everyone so well that you just ended up staying at the wedding? That is actually so crazy, that’s so crazy, that’s so crazy in a field? That is so crazy. A groomsman? That’s so crazy. This whole thing is literally so crazy!! Like I cannot even put words and I’m moving on from this cuz like what do I even say? Like what do we even say okay like honestly slay I guess, like if you liked the guy cool like go off and you got some good content because you shot the wedding. So like okay a two-for-one special, okay I’m gonna shut up ahah!
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Submission: I charge more for proposals because the stress is SO high.
Cassidy: I do too! Because the stress is so high, you have to arrive 30 minutes early. Every guy is like I want you to be there already obviously and like this makes sense but it’s like I want you to be there in place ready to go before I get there. So it’s like oh well I got to show up 30 minutes early, I got to make sure I don’t run into you in the parking lot, like it’s a whole thing and the stress? Like literally I will be shaking no matter how many times I shoot a proposal, I am just like so shaken the adrenaline is pumping like it’s just so crazy!
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Submission: Wedding Speeches are getting out of hand, please stop talking more than 2 minute i am not hear for a 20 min testimony
Cassidy: I really agree with this. And I think as wedding photographers’ people in the wedding industry if you’re not a wedding photographer you’ve probably attended a wedding where speeches just go way too long. And I think as the photographer sometimes we feel it so long because it’s like, bro I have more than enough shots. Let’s move it along, sometimes it pushes the timeline it makes the timeline way longer. You know sometimes it’s literally like we’re bored! We don’t need to hear about the time in third grade when you guys shared a carrot! and I don’t know I think sometimes people make speeches about themselves too. They want it to be about the couple but like somehow it morphs into like I know them better than anyone else and here’s how and here’s why. Or like I’m funny and let me show you I’m funny by giving you my 20 minutes standup bit. Like I don’t know they’re a lot and I would say like a five minute speech is a good time like that’s a long time!
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Submission: I am an equestrian photographer; I shoot horses daily and it’s always quite entertaining. The worst thing that’s ever happened was that a girl had her whole finger bitten off by the horse mid photoshoot… she had to go to hospital right away and I was just left there.
Cassidy: Oh my gosh! Well, the question is where are the photos of the finger bite? Maybe we don’t need to see them but we need to know, like did you take photos of the finger bite? Also, that is insane like you just were left there. It’s like and honestly if I were the girl I don’t know if I’d want those photos back, I don’t know about that one! That’s crazy and that’s terrifying I’m like kind of scared of horses sometimes. You guys I’m sure you guys all saw and maybe I even talked about it on the podcast. I think I did the wedding where like the horses just all three of them came up to me at the same time and I was literally terrified. This is like one of those things where I’m like I would be out of there I’m terrified that is so scary!
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Submission: I missed the first kiss cause I was taking a shot of the bride’s crying father.
Cassidy: You know there’s nothing cuter than a father crying truly nothing cuter. Now is it cute to miss the first kiss? No, it’s not but it’s like I know that shot was probably good too of the father crying. Because you’re like looking at these two moments, you’re like okay first kiss or crying father and honestly you probably don’t realize you’re missing. It sounds like this person didn’t realize that the first kiss was happening but like at a wedding there’s so many big moments happening. And I think sometimes that’s why I feel almost scattered at a wedding. Because I feel like I’m constantly scanning the crowd for what’s the next thing that’s happening I’m looking all around trying to make sure I don’t miss anything because so many things happen. There are so many people and there’s only like one or two of you. It’s stressful.
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